I’m always amazed when a friend starts a sentence with, “I read your blog on…” referring to something I wrote that mattered to them.
I share this with you because it makes me very happy, but also because there is a recurrent theme in these conversations: stuff. “I’m right there with you.” “What is it about stuff?” “How are you handling this or letting go of that?” “How do I even start?”
They want to know my process. Exactly.
I’ll share it, but I want to make it clear that The Process is different for everyone. The time it takes, what to start with, how to keep going will depend on you.
In addition, these friends want to know how they will feel. I can’t answer that. I can tell you I feel overwhelmed, frustrated, sad, light, elated and overwhelmed all over again. There are times that I cannot stop and other times I’m paralyzed in the middle of a room and all I want to do is sit down and cry.
It should be different for everyone. Why you are doing it what matters most.
If you have a concrete goal in mind that is driving you, or an intention for the use of the space when you are done, you will remain steadfast in your endeavor. You must KNOW clarity will come. You must TRUST breathing will be easier and petty life stuff will no longer pull you down.
Stuff is a stressor. Just add it to the list. It’s one more thing (or likely hundreds of little actual things) on your nervous system.
You must have a clear vision. And support.
It is difficult, but not impossible, to do this alone in a house full of people who roll their eyes and sigh at your crazy ideas more than should be natural.
IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO SWAY THEM OR DO THIS FOR THEM.
For now, focus on YOU.
I encourage you to work on your why. As Stephen Covey stated, “Begin with the end in mind.”
- What does the “end” look like for you?
- What does it feel like?
- What will the benefit be once your space is purged and organized?
- What is the why that will keep you going?
Work on a ‘why’ that is so strong that you can easily explain it and rely on it to keep you on track.
If you’re struggling with the final vision, try getting at it this way:
- What is frustrating you now?
- How much time do you spend moving things to look for other things?
- How much time do you spend looking for something in general?
- How much energy do you lose when you look at your surroundings?
Imagine your space clear, open, organized. Close your eyes and edit it. Imagine your bedroom with just a bed. What else do you need? What else would you add? Maybe it’s nothing. Start with an empty room in your mind’s eye and add in (on paper or in your imagination) only what you need and what brings you peace.
The outcome you envision will be the key to your progress. If nothing is coming to you, maybe it’s not the right time quite yet. Allow it to unfold, to evolve, let it roll around in your brain.
It. Is. So. Worth. It.
YOU, are so worth it.
Next time we’ll talk strategy. For now work on “why”. What’s the point? Ponder that.